Share your praise, be satisfied with yourself and know when to seek help
3. Compliment and praise each other
Notice some of the good things your spouse does, then say something positive about them. You can thank your partner for picking up your dry cleaning. Express appreciation for the ways that he is loving or supportive of you. Or you can just tell him what you love about him.
4. Improve yourself and your couple relationship will improve
You can't look to your spouse to fix the things that are wrong in your life. You have to take charge and take responsibility for making yourself happy. When you are busy and excited by your own life, the small things that used to anger or disappoint you about your spouse will lessen.
5. See a couple's therapist
You don't need to be ready to get a divorce before you go for therapy. If you feel unable to resolve a particular problem, or if you want to improve any aspect of your relationship, call and make an appointment with a couple therapist you feel comfortable with.
Carole-Anne Vatcher is a psychotherapist in Kingston, Ontario. She has been interviewed for Canadian Living, Homemakers and Reader's Digest magazines and has made guest appearances on CBC Radio, Canada AM, TVOntario, W Live and City TV's TalkTV.
