6 ways to make your relationship last

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• ange wrote:

  Jan 15, 2007

  2009-09-22 10:48 AM

  this are very helpful. i find it so difficult to be completely, 100% comfortable with the trust issue. there have been 2 times when my boyfriend was interested in women. the brave soul told me about the first one, but not the second one. He asked to go for coffee with the second one, when he had told me specifically that he did not like her at all. he did this when i was away, and we were in a fight. i really dont know how to be completely trusting with him, because he is very vulverable. i get frustrated when he goes out with his friends, who are mostly girls, and i am not invited. any one have any tips to tell him how i feel without him getting super mad at me and getting him to understand and respect me.

• Panzer~Elite wrote:

  Jul 06, 2005

  2009-09-22 10:48 AM

  Even after 11 years of my divorce .... I have to absolutely, and strongly AGREE with the author. These 5 crucial fundamentials of every relationship working well in a long run, are recomended especially in the North American societies.

• Karen wrote:

  Jan 15, 2007

  2009-11-18 3:00 PM

  Paul, what is your wife's resentment about? Unless you you find out and resolve it, there will be no affection or sex. Resentment erodes a relationship.

• Paul wrote:

  Jan 03, 2005

  2009-11-18 3:00 PM

  These seems like 6 valid points. After ten years with my wife, I'm filing for divorce mainly due to unchanging problems from her with points #2 & #4. Another important point factor IMHO that you've missed is affection/intimacy/sex. Maybe a #7?

• Kerry wrote:

  Mar 14, 2006

  2009-11-18 3:01 PM

  These are all great points! It's nice to read other people's ideas (professional or non-professional) and see just how great things really are!

• Lucy wrote:

  Sep 19, 2005

  2009-11-18 3:02 PM

  Point # 1 and #2 are key. Sometimes we don't even realize we've lost them or try too hard to get them back. I've been married for 28 years and have just separated. It took a lot to make the decision but in the end I saw that Trust -- especially emotional trust was key. If you don't have that, then respect and soon all the other points fall awat. When we lose it, we need to be careful how we get it back. Don't give yourself away to get it, it's not worth it.