The body's most powerful sex organ
8 tips for a satisfying sex life
What can you do to inject a sense of fun and adventure back into your bedroom play? Start your seduction at the top.
"The brain is the most powerful sex organ," says Kerner. "It's a question of stimulating the mind through all cycles of your relationship."
1. Take inventory of yourself and your self esteem
Doing something that makes you feel better about how you look can shoot up your self esteem and that can be a powerful aphrodisiac. Maybe it's losing weight or exercising, but maybe it's as simple as getting a new outfit or taking a spa day. A couple's massage might be the ticket.
2. Nurture your relationship outside of the bedroom
"What can you do with your partner to bring some freshness into your relationship?" asks Kerner. "If you haven't had a date night in months, it may be time to start having one. If you do have a date night, but it's always the same restaurant, vary it."
3. Share interests
Your relationship may have started over a shared love of wine or movies. Perhaps your interests changed or you outgrew your original pursuits, but have you replaced those interests with other shared activities in your relationship?
"Novelty and newness — and I'm not talking about sexual novelty — is key to attraction because it stimulates dopamine transmission in the brain, which plays a big role in excitement," says Kerner.
4. Prioritize your sex time
Don't just go through the moves in the bedroom. Rather than collapsing into bed at the end of a long day and allowing 15 minutes before your favourite sitcom airs, think about what you can do to create a more intimate environment.
5. Spice it up
Do you share fantasies with your partner?
"I sometimes tell women who are a bit uncomfortable being sexually assertive about their passions and desires, to tell their partner that they had a sexy dream about him." Kerner guarantees their partner will want to know the details of the ‘dream'. "That's a chance to get a little playful and insert a fantasy without feeling that you're going to be judged for it."
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What can you do to inject a sense of fun and adventure back into your bedroom play? Start your seduction at the top.
"The brain is the most powerful sex organ," says Kerner. "It's a question of stimulating the mind through all cycles of your relationship."
1. Take inventory of yourself and your self esteem
Doing something that makes you feel better about how you look can shoot up your self esteem and that can be a powerful aphrodisiac. Maybe it's losing weight or exercising, but maybe it's as simple as getting a new outfit or taking a spa day. A couple's massage might be the ticket.
2. Nurture your relationship outside of the bedroom
"What can you do with your partner to bring some freshness into your relationship?" asks Kerner. "If you haven't had a date night in months, it may be time to start having one. If you do have a date night, but it's always the same restaurant, vary it."
3. Share interests
Your relationship may have started over a shared love of wine or movies. Perhaps your interests changed or you outgrew your original pursuits, but have you replaced those interests with other shared activities in your relationship?
"Novelty and newness — and I'm not talking about sexual novelty — is key to attraction because it stimulates dopamine transmission in the brain, which plays a big role in excitement," says Kerner.
4. Prioritize your sex time
Don't just go through the moves in the bedroom. Rather than collapsing into bed at the end of a long day and allowing 15 minutes before your favourite sitcom airs, think about what you can do to create a more intimate environment.
5. Spice it up
Do you share fantasies with your partner?
"I sometimes tell women who are a bit uncomfortable being sexually assertive about their passions and desires, to tell their partner that they had a sexy dream about him." Kerner guarantees their partner will want to know the details of the ‘dream'. "That's a chance to get a little playful and insert a fantasy without feeling that you're going to be judged for it."
Click to continue for 3 more ways to satisfy your sex life...
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