10 relationship-saving travel tips

10 relationship-saving travel tips

Will your trip reveal that you're good travel buddies or sparring partners? Find out how to ensure your relationship survives the journey.
Updated:
2009-10-11 12:05
Published:
2004-06-02 00:00
By 
Jean Sorensen

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It starts off so innocently. There's intrigue, excitement of the unknown and anticipation. But if you have agreed to travel with a friend, co-worker or mate, you may have just opened the lid to Pandora's box. Vacation can be a time when general personality quirks can be magnified, and things one wouldn't normally do at home seem OK -- like over-drinking, over-spending and being rude. Here's a checklist of points to consider before travelling with a buddy or partner.


1. Money
Before packing the suitcases, have a candid conversation about money and spending. Agree on personal and shared expenses. What will you do if one person loses their money, runs out of money or doesn't want to tip a rude waiter? Decide how financial disagreements should be resolved and set rules for shared expenses.

2. Sleeping arrangements
Sleep deprivation is not a sign of a relaxing vacation and while hotels and cruise lines offer cheaper rates for shared accommodation, this can be troublesome for incompatible roommates. Talk about your sleep requirements and preferences. Who is an early or late riser? Who is a light sleeper? Who snores? You may decide to set guidelines like a curfew to ensure that you're respectful of each other's bedtime; or establish a 15-minute morning preparation time so the early-riser gets out the door, off to breakfast or a swim, with minimal disturbance to the person who is asleep.

3. Taboo behaviour
Be frank -- and serious -- about drugs, dating, and over-drinking. In some countries, being involved with drugs can mean a death sentence. It's no joke when one companion's behaviour may result in another's introduction to a third-world prison. Dating can be another sensitive issue -- set rules to ensure that you're comfortable with each other's preferences. As for excessive alcohol consumption, discuss what's expected if one of you arrives to the room sloppy drunk every night. Set the boundaries of acceptable behaviour and determine the limits to which you will be responsible for one another.

4. Conflicting interests
When there are choices of what to see, where to go, and what to do, conflicts may arise. If one person wants to lie on the beach while the other wants to go explore the town, ask the concierge or resort staff about the best time to lie on the beach (there may be activities happening such as a barbecue or free salsa lessons you don't want to miss.) In some countries, it's too hot to lie on the beach at noon and better to be inside museums, attractions, or stores at that time. This shouldn't be a contest to get one's own way, but a strategy to maximize the benefits of the day. Present options to your travelling companion and if you don't agree on what to do, enjoy separate activities.

5. Flexibility
Travelling with a friend or partner is a give-and-take deal. You may not get to do everything you want to do and your companion may also have to sacrifice. Remember that one expands one's horizons by participating in activities not experienced before so go along with your buddy and experience new ideas, activities, or interests.

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6. Whiners
Nothing is worse than being saddled with a grumbler. Constant complaining can lead to major arguments, which will ruin any vacation. Take up valid complaints with tour operators, hotels staff and travel agents. If involved with a grumbling partner whose attitude won't change, take a time out -- read a book by the pool, have a massage, or hit the soaker tub.


7. Accounts
This may seem like a small point, but check out and go over the bill together, so that you can equally and fairly divide any hotel charges billed to the room. This is not just a good travel practice that allows you to catch errors but it also ensures that one party is not feeling put upon.

8. Punctuality
Travelling with someone who is constantly late is frustrating. This is especially inconsiderate on tours -- a busload of tourists can be left waiting for one or two individuals. When you and your travel partner split up, be punctual at meeting time. Agree to leave a message for your companion at the hotel desk in case you're inadvertently delayed. Remember that it's your duty to not waste the other person's vacation time.

9. Appreciation
It's reassuring to travel with a trustworthy person who may help carry your bags or share the expense of a cab. These things can be taken for granted, but those who have flown solo know how helpful that extra pair of hands and eyes can be. Return courtesies such as taking photos of each other, treating each other to a drink, or watching each other's bags at the airport.

10. Post-arrival
After being in close quarters with someone -- and all of their annoying habits -- there's a sense of release that runs loose as the aircraft wheels touch down. But resist the urge to badmouth because when you've had a chance to cool down, you'll feel awful about revealing a friend's few annoyances -- and risk alienating that person who is in your vacation photos.

Happy travels!

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