Women, sex and middle age
Sexiness has no expiration date, and women above 40 are beginning to realize this. Sex is just as fun and exciting (if not more so) in mid-life than at any other time in life. Groundbreaking new studies show that women reach their sexual peak in their early to mid-40s, while men taper-off mid-20s. Breaking out of a sexual rut and reviving romance can be tough but well-worth the effort once you shed those old inhibitions and stereotypes and start experiencing sex and intimacy on the mid-life level. Sex after 40
Lisa laughs a little when the subject of women, sex and middle age comes up. With her glasses, short-cropped greying hair and makeup-free face, some might assume the 65-year-old mother of three is sexually retiring. But Lisa says sex with her husband is as fun and exciting as it was when they were newlyweds, 45 years ago.
It's not as though their marriage is a perfect union, untouched by conflict. They are argumentative, and there have been times throughout the years when the stresses of life have dampened their ardour, but "the drive is still there, sometimes even more intense than it used to be," she says. And there are moments of real romance, something not often associated with long marriages. Their home on Vancouver Island overlooks the ocean, and it's not unusual for a great day of sailing to wind down into an evening of "really nice lovemaking."
Of course, their aging bodies do not always perform the way they used to. Her troublesome hip means certain positions are now too difficult, and sometimes his erection just isn't there. Lisa has sought medical help for vaginal dryness -- about as difficult to deal with as getting bifocals.
Their frequency has also declined, from several times a week to four or five times a month. But Lisa says that bodily limitations have become a subject for humour, and cuddling makes up for the times when sex doesn't happen. "Every morning we lie together very close and talk about our kids, or what we are going to do that day. I think neither one of us could do without that."
Sexual pleasure skyrockets mid-life
Sound unusual? It isn't. Plenty of evidence -- ranging from formal studies, to the observations of sex therapists and researchers, to women themselves -- suggests that female sexual pleasure hits new highs after 40.
With careers established, childbirth behind them and physical vigour largely still intact, many mid-age women find that, finally, they have the time, the confidence and the desire to enjoy sex as they never have before.
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Lisa laughs a little when the subject of women, sex and middle age comes up. With her glasses, short-cropped greying hair and makeup-free face, some might assume the 65-year-old mother of three is sexually retiring. But Lisa says sex with her husband is as fun and exciting as it was when they were newlyweds, 45 years ago.
It's not as though their marriage is a perfect union, untouched by conflict. They are argumentative, and there have been times throughout the years when the stresses of life have dampened their ardour, but "the drive is still there, sometimes even more intense than it used to be," she says. And there are moments of real romance, something not often associated with long marriages. Their home on Vancouver Island overlooks the ocean, and it's not unusual for a great day of sailing to wind down into an evening of "really nice lovemaking."
Of course, their aging bodies do not always perform the way they used to. Her troublesome hip means certain positions are now too difficult, and sometimes his erection just isn't there. Lisa has sought medical help for vaginal dryness -- about as difficult to deal with as getting bifocals.
Their frequency has also declined, from several times a week to four or five times a month. But Lisa says that bodily limitations have become a subject for humour, and cuddling makes up for the times when sex doesn't happen. "Every morning we lie together very close and talk about our kids, or what we are going to do that day. I think neither one of us could do without that."
Sexual pleasure skyrockets mid-life
Sound unusual? It isn't. Plenty of evidence -- ranging from formal studies, to the observations of sex therapists and researchers, to women themselves -- suggests that female sexual pleasure hits new highs after 40.
With careers established, childbirth behind them and physical vigour largely still intact, many mid-age women find that, finally, they have the time, the confidence and the desire to enjoy sex as they never have before.
Click to continue....
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